The Stephanie Files

Just because someone desires you, does not mean that they value you. I posted this particular quote on facebook yesterday and the amount of shares and messages I received was surprising.  I shouldn't have been surprised though, this is a powerful statement and it hit home for me pretty hard which is why I posted it to begin with. This is such an important thing to remember.  We all want to be desired, to know that someone sees us and genuinely delights in being near us.  That is just human nature and it is OK to want this.  What we sometimes fail to see is that desire can be a selfish feeling, it doesn't necessarily mean that someone has your best interest at heart.  After all, it is about a need.  It is a want or a wish for something in our life.    Value is not.  Value is the regard in which something is held in importance.  It’s not about what someone wants for themselves but what they want for the people around them. ...

I have been thinking a lot lately about what I want.  That means a lot of different things to me but recently it has been less about goals and more about a bigger picture. How do I want to feel and more importantly what does that mean for me?  Happy.  Challenged.  Secure.  Silly.  Those are just a few off the top of my head but those feelings mean something different for everyone so how do I accomplish this in my own life, or better yet how do I continue it? I found something recently and I really loved it.  It was detailed as a 2015 Manifesto but I think a more accurate title should have been “Stephanie’s Life Rules” #1 Guard your time #2 Let kindness rule #3 Create good habits #4 Choose to focus on the good #5 Start each day with goals #6 Find the best in others #7 Be the best version of you #8 Believe anything is possible What most often makes me happy?  Puts a smile on my face?  Makes me feel fulfilled? Number...