The Stephanie Files

I was browsing Pinterest earlier today when my board was inundated with links on how to be the perfect gf, be the perfect catch, and things I might be doing to scare off men. No doubt they were ads since that's a thing now with Pinterest being so popular but I just sat there kind of stunned for a moment. Is this really what we are teaching women? That there is a technique to learn, the right kind of clothes to wear, that perfection that has to be met to be desirable? Because if that is the case I am just totally screwed. I am loud and opinionated and stubborn and wayyy overly sensitive and man do I know how take on the weight of the world. I need more reassurance and help than I would care to admit and this is coming from a fairly confident woman. A woman who DIDNT grow up engrossed in the internet, airbrushing, and garbage like these ads advertised. I struggle with being vulnerable and showing all parts of who i am but I cannot imagine how it would feel to be a young adult o...

“A strong woman knows she has strength enough for the journey, but a woman of strength knows it is in the journey where she will become strong.” As the year is coming to a close and I am winding down from a lot of emotions over the last few months, I can’t help but take stock of everything that has happened this year.  The conclusion? God has a very funny way of working things out. I stopped asking for specific things in my life a while ago because…well…. life just doesn’t work like that.  Instead, 2015 was a year where I stepped back and just said “Ok. Teach me something.” Maybe there is a fine line between asking for something too specific and not being specific enough because OH MY GOODNESS did things get crazy fast.  I got my wish though and to say I learned a few things would be an understatement. I can’t say that I was really lacking direction or confidence before because let’s face it, I’ve always been pretty self-assured, but I can safely say ...