Red or Blue Pill?

 

 

I feel like my writing has all been around a common theme lately.  Maybe it was an unspoken one, but it all sort of ties in together to where I’m at in my own life.  In theory the definition of self-worth is so simple:  respect or a favorable opinion of oneself, except this does not seem to be simple at all for a lot of people.  We end up in dead end jobs, unhealthy relationships, or sometimes totally alone because we’re looking for something we’re lacking in all of the wrong places or we’re scared to take a leap because of our own insecurities. 

I see so many people that are unhappy and it breaks my heart.  Don’t they see how wonderful they are?  How talented and smart they are?  Don’t they see what they are doing to themselves?  The answer is obviously no, they have no idea. 

So how do you mend a broken idea of what you are?  Honestly, the more I’ve grown and learned about myself, the more I see this issue kind of like the matrix. We’re all living in a world that’s lying to us.  We need to be ___ weight to be beautiful.  We need to make ____ amount of money to be desirable or successful.  We’re considered strange for certain things we might enjoy doing.  The list goes on but for some reason this is the reality that we’ve accepted. 

So here’s my challenge to you.  Do you take the blue pill, continue believing the lies that we tell ourselves or do you take the red pill and start seeing life and (more importantly yourself) for what you were really created as…. beautifully unique?

Obviously if it were easy, everyone would take the red pill.  Unfortunately there is no pill and it is definitely not easy to pour into our own issues and fight what we’ve been telling ourselves (and have been told by others) for years and years and years.  Happiness is often disguised as hard work and at the end of the day most of us are scared, lazy messes of a human shell and that is certainly not what we were put on earth to run around as. 

One of the most fascinating parts of being human is our consciousness of our surroundings, and our ability for higher thinking and communication.  Down to our finger prints, we are all stamped with uniqueness so why in the world are you trying to fit a mold?  Let me clue you in on something: there isn’t one.  We are all different and the sooner we start accepting that instead of fighting it the quicker we will learn what it means to love ourselves. 

I think the biggest issue we all have when faced with that fork in the road is the question of “what if I go down this path and I don’t like what I find?  What if the lies I’ve been listening to about myself aren’t really lies at all?”  Well, there is always that possibility, but it isn’t anything that can’t be fixed I promise.  None of us are perfect and there are always going to be things that we need to work on, but it won’t be the end of the world.  It certainly won’t be easy but let’s look at it this way- you aren’t happy at the moment otherwise you wouldn’t be at this “fork”, so you can either trudge through the muck and deal with the darkness and land on the other side, OR you can just sit there and let it all consume you.

It’s that simple.  And no, I don’t mean in theory.  It is really that simple.  We all have demons.  We all have a past, made mistakes, have insecurities.  We’ve all had dark days, been through a life changing moment, and everyone has been faced with tough decisions.  They sometimes define us, sometimes they teach us, and sometimes they barely make a ripple. 

Can you imagine what this world would be like if we stopped projecting our own insecurities on to others?  If we stopped seeing things through our blinders and started loving ourselves in spite of what someone else might tell us? 

It has the word “self” in it for a reason and it starts with you.  At the end of the day others will always let you down, even if it isn’t intentional.  A little respect, love, and value in yourself will go a long way in how you see the world and others in it.

There is no magic pill and we only have one life to live so why not start making it count?  The only regret you should ever have is that you didn’t try.  Everything else is just a lesson learned and an opportunity to better oneself.