About Time

One of my favorite movies is About Time.  While the concept is a little silly- a young man discovers he can time travel and tries to change his past in order to improve his future, the movie as a whole always leaves me with all of the feels (as the young kids say).  I love the real story behind the movie though which is about a man learning to accept his mistakes, grow from them, and in the process learn to find joy in the little things that make up his day instead of taking stalk in the day as a whole.

So basically it is my life’s mantra in movie form.  It’s simply wonderful.  I watch that one a lot, especially when I have had a not so great day myself.  It’s just another way for me to remind myself to take a step back, breathe, and not stress so much.

Yesterday was bad.  Actually, I take that back…yesterday was REALLY bad.  What I love about bad days though, is that it gives me the opportunity to choose to be happy and see the silver lining.  It is easy to be joyful when things are just great and the universe lines up perfectly for you.  I love looking back at a hard day though, and being able to appreciate the small things that I was still able to take away from it.

This is such a different approach than what I took to life a few years ago.  Let me just tell you folks-what a difference an attitude can make. 

Did I cry yesterday?   Sure did.  Several times to be exact.  A good attitude doesn't always mean that everything is hunky dory.  What it means is that you are trying to appreciate life, even when it is a bit stormy.  So last night, I promised myself as I went to bed that I would wake up in the morning with a joyful heart and that I would look at my previous day and find the lighter spots. 

What did I find when I woke up?  

I found a day that was filled with support.  While that support might not have been at work where I really needed it, I had it in the form of a friendship.  Someone who kept me grounded, was protective and concerned, and wanted to ensure at the end of the day that I left the stress behind.  I found a day filled with hugs from residents.  I found a day filled with some rather amusing situations at the community.  I also found a day filled with a little sorrow over a resident who passed but also gave me the reminder of why I chose senior care and why I am exactly where I need to be.

In the movie, towards the end, the father tells the son to begin reliving every single day a second time- and the second time around to make sure to find the little joys that will make his day better.  The son takes his father’s advice and then eventually you know what happened?  He no longer needed to relive those days.  Why?  Because it was so ingrained in him to choose joy daily that he no longer needed to go back in time.


That is my life's goal.  

I am not always perfect at it, and you won’t be either.  The point is really that we try. 

After all, practice makes perfect right? 

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