The Stephanie Files

A few months ago, I wrote about why you need the intimidating (or as I like to call them…STRONG) women in your life.  It was just a personal observation about what people DON’T take into consideration when dealing with women who are just bad ass boss ladies but recently a friend and I were talking about it, life, and dating in general and they asked me what exactly a strong woman looked for in a potential partner and how it possibly looked different from how other women and personalities need to receive love. Huh.  GREAT question.  I think that people confuse the word strong with cold.  On more than one occasion I have been called a bitch because I am direct and I don’t accept excuses when they are poor ones.  I think people see driven, single women very one dimension-ally.  As in, we all have one goal in life- success, and we only see one way of achieving it and our needs are based around that.  That love and success for women do no...

I have always felt that I was a kind person. I try to be compassionate and I try to be helpful.  I genuinely want what is best for others and I love people.  What I have learned recently though is that in spite of all of my good qualities, I am still nowhere near perfect. I know.  It shocked me too. As a matter of fact, I am by nature a selfish human being. That last one was a really hard pill to swallow, but in all honesty it’s the truth.  As much as I care, I still have my selfish moments.  It seems like lately I have been learning a lot about what it means to be an adult.  I have also been learning a lot about what it means to be in adult relationships.  And I have concluded that I am not great at it. I think that being independent and strong willed are some of my best qualities.  I can take care of myself, I know how to survive in this harsh world, and I know how to set goals and accomplish them. What I didn’t realize though, ...